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Coming Out

For millennia many a preacher has tried to explain the Trinity in novel, assessable ways using images of triangles, circles, shamrocks or water’s ability to appear as solid, liquid, gas.

So fraught with challenge to understand this tricky concept that even Martin Luther, who was something less than shy as a church reformer, once said this:

To deny the Trinity is to risk our salvation;
To try and explain the Trinity is to risk our sanity.

My goal with this message is to keep both intact 😊.

Today’s text certainly has Trinitarian bona fides. Jesus is described here as someone who came from God. The winds of the Spirit blow where they choose, symbolizing the active presence of God in our world. The basic ingredients for grasping the three in one as God the Father, God the Son, God the Holy Spirit are all here.

But it’s the conversation in our gospel today of John 3:1-17 I find myself most drawn to.

Nick
The scene begins with Nicodemus, a Jewish religious teacher, going to see Jesus at night. Their conversation happens under the cover of darkness. This suggests Nicodemus isn’t entirely comfortable being seen in public with Jesus. That perhaps he is not yet enlightened. This is, after all, the story of Jesus and Nick at Nite.

Nick approaches Jesus with a sense of curiosity about the charismatic young new teacher able to draw large crowds. No one can do these signs you do apart from God, Nick says. Christ, in return, presents a riddle.

No one can see the kingdom of God without being born from above, Jesus shares. Nick, leaning on what he knows of his faith tradition can’t help but go for a plain, literal meaning of what he just heard.

Nick wonders, can a person enter into their mother’s womb a second time and be born? Nick seems confused. Christ clarifies. What is born of flesh is flesh.

The wind blows where it chooses.

You don’t know
where it comes from,
or where it goes.

Such it is with everything born of the Spirit.

Nick, still not quite getting it, replies flatly, how can this be?

Jesus replies, are you a religious teacher? How do you not get this?

Christ goes on to share with Nick language you likely know by heart in John 3:16 – for God so loved the world. It is an broad, expansive understanding of the divine. Verse 17, it’s lesser-known sibling, continues:

God did not send the Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.

The world. Said differently God isn’t just for some, but for all.

For Nick, a devout Jew, this would have challenged him. It would have stretched what he was taught about his religion growing up.

For rebirth is a spiritual experience available to all, but perhaps most needed by religious people who might think they do not need it. Religion often becomes a matter of the correct observance of particular practices. When these practices become routine, they can hinder us spiritually. When this happens the need for spiritual transformation, for a birth into the new, is due.

As the conversation between Nick and Jesus concludes it’s hard not to wonder, given Nick’s background with tradition, and given this challenge, how did Nick respond?

Did his understanding of God evolve?

Or would he be forever stuck –
saying,
doing,
believing,
The way it had always been?

Fortunately, Nick’s narrative isn’t yet done.

Nick appears again in John 7. The chief priests sent temple police to arrest Jesus. Some were saying arrest, arrest, arrest! Others wanted to leave him alone. In the middle of this Nick tells the gathered crowd that our law doesn’t judge people without first giving them a hearing, does it? No longer shrouded in darkness, Nick now rallies around his savior in a very visible, very public way.

Nick’s final act in this trinity of scenes is in John 19. Here he brings spices to embalm Jesus’s dead body. He now fully identifies as a Christ follower. Of the twelve disciples one betrayed and eleven were still hiding. But not Nick. Nick is coming out, in public, as a dedicated disciple for all to see.

Soon
In two weeks our congregation has the opportunity to come out, in a different kind of way. St. John’s Lutheran Des Moines is part of a new coalition of a dozen LGBTQ+ open and affirming Des Moines area congregations that is starting to get organized. Other congregations in this coalition include:

We can be part of this group because of the good work done by St. John’s in the past year. Three months ago we voted to become a LGBTQ+ open and affirming Reconciling in Christ congregation, where all of God’s children are welcomed, embraced and loved. And we weren’t shy about it. The vote passed with 98% approval. Not too shabby.

The first thing we open and affirming Des Moines congregations are doing together is a shared worship service during Capital City Pride on Sunday, June 9.

The service will be –

  • Outdoors,
  • At 10am,
  • At the Pride Mainstage,
  • At the corner of East 6th St and Locust,
  • About a mile away.

Across our dozen congregations and the broader community we expect over 500 people will join us for worship. To get a good spot arrive around 9:45am, bring a lawn chair, and perhaps some sunscreen too.

We will sing together, pray together, celebrate holy communion together. All among a group of believers passionate about what it means when we say for God so loved the world. All of it. In all sorts of bright rainbowy kinds of ways.

There will be joy.
There will be laughter.
Smiles will abound.

Then, after worship, you are invited to stick around and join St. John’s in marching in the Pride parade. We’ll gather just a few blocks from there, the parade begins at noon. Last year 39 people came out to march with St. John’s. This year we’d love to have more. Our Bishop, Amy Current, will be joining us there. It will be all kinds of fun.

If you plan to march in the Capital City Parade, or help out at our Pride booth downtown that weekend you are invited to wear a St. John’s tie dye t-shirt. If you already have one great. If not just ask our Events Specialist Amanda Landers-Each and she’ll get you one. While supplies last 😊.

And if outdoor worship isn’t your thing? No worries.

You can join us here at St. John’s at 600 6th Ave June 9th at 10am, where we’ll host a livestream of the Pride service and also participate in holy communion. Or you can join us at home, or anywhere else via livestream that day as usual, and worship with us that way too.

That day you have a trinity of worship options. A holy trinity to be sure 😉.

Apply
Each of us, in our own way, can identify with Nick at Nite. We find ourselves drawn to Christ.

We want to –
learn,
understand,
grow into more.

Yet we too at times default to –
saying,
doing,
believing,
based on how it has always been.

Perhaps we too feel challenged when asked to care for and support one another in ways that are different and new.

Fear not, beloved.

For Nick at Nite,
becomes Nick during the day,
becomes Nick the disciple,
Serving Christ, boldly, until the end.

So join us,
in two weeks,
as you are able,
outside for worship,

There will be –
singing,
color,
sun.

Our journey,
to love God,
and our neighbor,
as led by the Spirit,
swirling around us,

in ways that challenge us,
to love more fully,
to love more boldly,
to love more publicly,

Is what it is, to be a follower of Christ.

And *that* journey, my friends,
has only just begun.

Friends

Sometime during our sophomore year in college, back in 1995, my future mother-in-law suggested Kathi and I watch a new TV show she just adored.

It was about a group of six people, all in their 20s, that were really close, and spent a slew of time together. “They’re young, like you,” she shared. “And fun. I think you’d really like it.”

So we watched, and surprisingly, to me at least, I enjoyed it. Which was a good reminder to my almost 20-year-old self that teenagers don’t know it all. Mothers really do know best 😊.

The show has a memorable opening with a catchy tune. Even just humming the intro, with no words, might be enough of a clue.

DE-DE-DE-DUH-DUH-DEH-DE-DE…it’s Friends, of course.

The series follows Rachel, Ross, Monica, Phoebe, Joey and Chandler, over the course of 10 seasons and 236 episodes, as they learn to live as young adults, through life’s up and downs, supporting each other along the way.

Each episode, in its own way, mirrors the title of the show’s theme song: I’ll be there for you.

For the six Friends always are, in profound and often funny ways.

In one scene Phoebe’s grandmother dies. When Joey and Chandler hear of it at their favorite coffeeshop, Central Perk, they hold Phoebe’s hand while Rachel rushes over and puts her arm around her. The Friends listen to and support Phoebe, helping her cope with the unexpected loss.

Phoebe shares the last thing her grandmother said to her when they were at the grocery store, “Okay dear, you go get the eggs and I’m gonna get the yogurt and we’ll meet at the checkout counter.”  And y’know what? We will meet at the checkout counter, Phoebe realizes, referring to the afterlife. The four share the insight and quietly agree.

Friends support each other in tough times, through listening, empathy, care.

In another episode Ross buys a new couch, and enlists the help of Rachel and Chandler to help move it up a flight of stairs. Turn, turn, turn, Ross directs, as the couch squishes Chandler’s head against the rail.

Pivot! Ross then exclaims, as they try to take another step up. Pivot! Pivot! Pivot! But the couch doesn’t pivot, and gets stuck in the staircase for good. Later needing to be cut in half to be removed.

Friends help each other move heavy things. Or at least they try 😊

Then there’s the scene where Rachel is moving out of Monica’s apartment, and they’re both packing her things, reminiscing, feeling sad, even getting upset with each other. Phoebe does her best to lighten the moment, asking what it is Monica likes about Rachel.

“She folds down the pages of catalogs with things she thinks I’d like,” Monica begins. “When I take a shower she leaves me little notes on the mirror,” she continues. “And when I fall asleep on the couch after reading, she covers me over with a blanket,” she recalls.

And before you know it their fight is over and the two embrace. Friends help us see the best in each other. Friends also resolve conflict, restoring right relationship once again.

Local
This week a group of 14 people from our congregation walked two blocks to the Hilton Downtown to participate in a fundraising event sponsored by Central Iowa Shelter & Services, or CISS. While there we received a distinction: St. John’s Lutheran Des Moines is the recipient of the 2024 Heroes For Homeless award. The honor came with an awesome plaque of the Des Moines city scape. A few us noticed the cityscape is missing one particular church and spire, perhaps we’ll add that in.

We received this award for many reasons. St. John’s is one of eight congregations who founded the shelter in 1992, and for over 30 years has offered them our unwavering financial, volunteer and political support. On the 18th and 19th of every month members of our congregation pay for, prepare, and serve dinner at the CISS shelter to over 150 people. This is one way of many, we live into our call to be In The City, For Good.

If you haven’t volunteered for this amazing ministry, or haven’t volunteered in a while, simply sign up on our website, or add your name to the sign-up sheet in the narthex. Lord knows we’d love to have your help.

At the CISS gathering we also learned of a new mobile app, Bindle, that is launching soon. The app is designed to be an information hub for the unhoused of Des Moines, including where to find food, clothing and shelter, alongside resources for jobs, permanent housing, help with physical and mental health. And if you need free WiFi? The app will point you there. You better believe St. John’s resources will be part of that app when it goes live.

Partnering with CISS isn’t the only way St. John’s helps people society too often marginalizes. Each weekday, in Weertz Hall, right downstairs, we host a free lunch feeding program called the Connection Café. As a member of The Bridge, which partners with other downtown congregations and local companies, we offer this service to the community five days a week, 52 weeks a year. Members and friends of the Bridge collectively fund, prepare and serve over 100 people lunch a day. This adds up to over 30,000 meals we provide, right here, in our space, per year.

As an extension of this, just last month our church council approved a new Unhoused Ministry team to better address the issue of homelessness in Des Moines. If you would like to be part of group of people that cares for God’s beloved children in this way, in a team-oriented, solution-based setting, let us know. We’d love to get you connected to this exciting new thing God is doing here at 600 6th Ave.

Why do we do all this? Because we are friends.

Friends share meals.
Friends connect friends to community.
Friends troubleshoot problems of all kinds, just waiting to be solved.

And we church folk have the opportunity to join in on the fun.

Not servants
Today’s text from John 15 is unique. It’s the only place in scripture where Jesus refers to the twelve he’d travelled with not as disciples or servants, or even students.

Those labels suggest –

Levels,
Hierarchy,
Separation.

Between who has the power, authority, knowledge, and who does not.

Instead, he gives the disciples a new identity. “I have called you friends,” Christ tells them.

There is mutuality in friendship. It is where the vines and branches come together as one.

Friendship is where the health of one impacts the health of all. Friendship embodies loyalty, support, relationship, trust. Friends are there for each other, in good times and bad. No matter what.

The kind of friendship Jesus refers to involves more than just a passive term. For Christ has called us friends if we do something.

If we love one another. Just as Christ has loved us.

Christ makes a bold claim here: to love is to be a friend.
In matters of faith love and friendship are synonymous.

They are one in the same.

We can take this linguistic twist for a spin in some fun ways. Consider the greatest commandment using the language of friendship.

You shall be friends with the Lord your God, giving of all your heart and soul and mind. And you shall befriend your neighbor, treating them as well as treat yourself.

The life of Christ, viewed another way, offers an interesting twist too. Consider Jesus’ resume, and what we are to emulate, through the lens of friendship.

Friends heal the sick.
Friends feed the hungry.
Friends clothe those without.
Friends calm fears.
Friends turn water to wine.

Friends welcome –
The immigrant,
The LGBTQ+,
The black, the brown, the other.

Friends embrace people society often discards.

Faithful friends do all that, not out of obligation, or because it’s the right thing to do. They do all that because living in friendship with God’s beloved brings us into divine harmony with one another. It brings us back to the original plan.

As it once was.
As it can be again.

Just as God walked side-by-side with Adam and Eve in the garden, we are to walk with others, as friends, modeling the friendship Christ extends to us.

Even better, having friends is physically good for us. Studies find if you have strong social connections, you are less likely to have:

  • Depression
  • High blood pressure
  • An unhealthy body mass index (BMI)

Studies even suggest that people with meaningful relationships and social support in their twilight years are more likely to live longer than their peers with fewer connections.

Simply put we need friends.
And we need to be friends.

Especially given Christ’s call to friend one another. Just as Christ has friended us.

Pivot
Returning to the Friends theme song for just a bit, consider the lyrics in a new light. As you listen, remember the friend we have in Christ. Be reminded of the importance of friendship with one another.

So no one told you life was gonna be this way
Your job’s a joke, you’re broke
Your love life’s DOA
It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear
When it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month
Or even your year, but

I’ll be there for you
(When the rain starts to pour)
I’ll be there for you
(Like I’ve been there before)
I’ll be there for you
(‘Cause you’re there for me too)

Love one another, yes. But take it a step further. As you encounter people through the journeys of life, no matter who they may be, try something else.

Be a friend. Amen.